Cultivate Your Higher Self . . .

You can overcome self-defeating behavior by concentrating on the present rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. The present is the only moment during which you can experience happiness—or misery—and the only moment over which you have any control.

The higher self promotes the feeling of peace. The higher self wants you to enjoy rather than strive endlessly . . . to relate honestly with others . . . to feel connected by love, rather than separated by fear. By listening to your higher self, you will have more power: You will be free to choose intelligently and to see more confidently.

Four Steps to Higher Self

1) Shut down your inner dialogue. It has been estimated that we think 60,000 thoughts each day. The trouble is, most of them are pretty much the same thoughts we had yesterday. Just below this constant stream of chatter in your brain is a space of calm and quiet. You don’t have to go into a cave and meditate to connect with this quiet space. You can do it anywhere.

    * Strategy: Take a moment of silence—a break from this barrage of thoughts. As my long-time clients already know, adding a few deep breaths can work wonders.

    * Ideal: Most effective would be to take a ten-minute walk if you can. Here is a key: While walking, cast your eyes upward. If it is a clear day, and let them soak in the deep, peaceful blue of the sky God gave us. As calm returns, you will again become aware of the thoughts as they pass through your mind, and the space between the thoughts. Your pulse will slow, your blood pressure will drop. You will feel relaxed and will begin to take charge of your emotions.

2) Banish your doubts. To eliminate doubt, recognize the difference between what you believe and what you know–that is, between beliefs and knowledge.

    * Beliefs: These are opinions handed to you by other people or by assumptions you make from events in your environment. It is important to realize that, whatever your objective in life, these beliefs, without substantial support from the facts, won’t get you there. Such a belief is a guess, and there is doubt associated with a guess because it comes from outside you.

    * Knowledge: This is the opposite of doubt. What you know comes from within. That is, it comes from your direct experience. Some knowledge, of course, has to come from other sources. But much of the knowledge about yourself comes from yourself.

3) Cultivate the witness in you. There are two people living within you: (1) one who thinks, moves and acts, and (2) an innermost self that just observes, allowing you to study yourself objectively.

    * Strategy: Learn to step outside yourself by using visualization. Instead of being completely absorbed in everything that is happening to you, try to cultivate the part of you that stands a little apart from the rest of you.   

4) Tame your ego. By taming your ego, you will experience that higher self that deserves love, and good health. With nothing to prove, you won’t particularly need approval.

    * Strategies: Work at not being offended and allow other people to be who they actually are. Strive for tolerance rather than dominance, and you will be in peace rather than turmoil. Practice the highest level of heightened awareness—being independent of the good opinion of other people.

When you have the choice between being right or being kind, always pause long enough to judge whether it would be better to be kind. Letting go of your need to be accepted, and of the tendency to judge others for not knowing, can dramatically transform your well being.

Happiness is possible only if you take charge of your inner feelings and evict your negative thoughts to make room for positive thoughts. Only then will you add to your peace of mind.




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